All of us have non-negotiables. 11 years ago, fresh out of home, when I went to college, my religious beliefs were non-negotiable.
“There is one God eternally existent in three persons, the Bible is His word and The Brethren ( my church) understand it best”
In a year, the last part eroded away. Then the others did too. After a decade , a bare-bones, qualified version of the original statement of faith persists.
The evidence based practice of modern scientific medicine was the non-negotiable then. No way I was going to be a quack.
Then I started practicing medicine and realized that there was much my training was completely useless for.
Some time along the way, I also picked up a love for the free market economic system. And then, that changed too.
Today, some of my old non-negotiables are back, most are new.
Honesty is not always the best policy, but family always comes first. The definition of family has changed, though.
Here’s what I’m saying: If you are doing it right, you will chip away, brutally, at all the things you were taught or believe are the most important things in your life, and then constantly refine the remaining list.
Most of your non-negotiables are negotiable.